Earlier in the week an incident occurred that hurt me. I might have tricked you all into thinking I’m an always confident, badass who (insert double snap) owns it 100% of the time but, sometimes, not so much. What happened hurt my self-perception, my self-confidence, I felt insulted and it resulted in me feeling less beautiful. I forgot a very important fact, that when you’re dealing with assholes, it has absolutely nothing to do with you.
When somebody feels the need to insult you, call you a name, bring you down a peg or generally just act like an a-hole, it comes from a deep place of lack, of unhappiness and of egotism. While this is no excuse to act inappropriately, unfortunately, it happens. The only thing you can control is your reaction.
Not everybody is as full of love as you, not everybody is as kind as you, indeed, some people weren’t smacked as a child when they said something mean (I can still feel the keen sting on my bum cheeks when I think about it). The best way to deal with assholes is to retort with compassion. For no truly happy person feels the need to insult another, happiness removes the need. It can be difficult to remove yourself from the words and insults of people like this, especially when it has touched on an insecurity or attacked your personal worth. But you have to remember that the opinion of somebody who says mean things isn’t an opinion you should value, nor is it accurate or even worth your time. Let it go and move on, knowing that fortunately, you’ll never feel the need to hurt another person because you are not, in fact, an a-hole. 😉
You’re a wise woman. When someone insults you, it is difficult to ignore even if the person lobbing the criticism your way means little or nothing to you in the overall scheme. Sometimes the words touch on our insecurities and can trigger a ‘Maybe they’re right’ response. Frankly, I think the best way is to either ignore it (sometimes very difficult) or just answer by calling them out on it. Or just smile and wink and nod your head and say ‘Your opinion is important to us and we’ll get right back to you’. Puts them off every time!